So much for prescription sleeping pills.. wide awake nice and early but it’s a gloriously autumnal day so shouldn’t grumble too much.  I just love it when the autumn colours are lit beautifully by sunshine and the air is cold and crisp.

I ‘published’ this site last night and told friends and family of its existence.  I’ve received such wonderful messages of support for the upcoming operation, enormous support for doing this site and acknowledgement about my honesty and openness in the content.  Thank you.  Sadly I’ve also learnt of friends around the world (who like me have been quiet and off the radar for a while) and who have been through or are going through treatment for breast and other cancers.  We’re all amazingly strong people and I’m sending my love and support to them also.  Right, now to work out what to pack for hospital and convalescence.

11.30am – The hospital have just called to say ‘be prompt, they want me to be first on the surgery list’… is that a good thing?  Think the consultant starts ops at 9am, so good thoughts and well vibes then please…

Am now installed at Millies, room looking georgous and comfortable (better than any 5* hotel!) and 12 hours to go until I leave for the hospital.

Will leave you now and update you when I’m back home – Facebookers, I’ll update you there via my mobile.  Gosh though I am soooo lucky to have such great support – if I could cash in all the fantastic messages, and bottle all the good vibes and energy, I would be the richest person alive.  Thank you.  xxx

“Hello All.

Some of you may know, others may have heard rumours about me, why I keep cancelling meet ups, am not in work etc etc, I’ve put a little story online…. I’m also hoping this will help others find answers or reach people to talk to that are affected this rare cancer, malignant phyllodes tumour. 

http://www.annawallace.co.uk

Look forward to being out partying soon… keep sending through the invites please!

Keep well and safe

Anna
Xxx”

I woke this morning and noticed that my pillow was wet.  I’d obviously been crying in my sleep again.  It’s a toughy at the moment, trying hard to look on the positive side in that they WILL get the tumour and a clear margin and I’ll then be fine (subject to post op radiation therapy and regular tests).  Although I am incredibly fortunate to be able to see the positive in almost every situation and have a giggle at myself when I get upset, I’m struggling with this as the operation looms and more, of the same, questions are rerunning in my head.  Should I just elect for a mastectomy to maximise the chances of it’s clean removal?  If so, would I have reconstruction surgery?  Could I cope without a boobie?  If I didn’t have it reconstructed would I (should I) remove the other one too again reducing the chances of it coming back in the other breast.  But I’m still young (ish – I’m 41 going on 4!) and my boobies are important to me… I’d need a whole new wardrobe (which I can’t afford)… I love my lingerie… I’d look so very different… and I’m single… could I find someone to love me who’d want to see me naked?… BUT then again there’s heaps that I could do without boobies that I haven’t been able to do with them… like going running (they were always sooo painful when I ran or did aerobics type classes), even Pilates when I needed to lie on my front was painful… But then again, would I still feel feminine without one or both of them?  OK, so today you’re really getting my inner ‘mares on this one.  Gotta be positive.  The next op will be the end of it and they’ll get it all.  I don’t need to worry about being lopsided.

Right best get up and do some cleaning.  Some of my colleagues are coming over to see me for lunch.   Hmmmm will they bring Percy Pigs with them?

Lovely to catch up with my colleagues for lunch but am now exhausted again.. a little nap me thinks.

Whoohoooo, finally, I have discovered the Rare Cancer Support Alliance (www.rare-cancer.org) which not only lists details about a malignant phyllodes tumour but has forums where other ladies have posted and answered queries, given their stories about their journey, what worked, what didn’t work, what they were advised, shared their histopathology reports etc etc.

I posted an introduction to me and my predicament whilst also looking through the various postings and forums for other information.  I also researched previous postings where I note that there are some posts that refer to similar pain being due to surgery and the nerve endings settling down.

I can’t explain how relieved I am to have found somewhere that has honest information and balanced views about this type of tumour.

I also found reference to a Barth report that’s been recently published… Barth Report which although I don’t have access to the whole report has given me food for thought regarding mastectomy, metastasing and radiationtherapy.  Finally I feel that I’m getting a better picture.

Greta called me today following my queries on the answerphone.  She’s brilliant and what a fab service she (and their team) provides.  She gently assures me that have spoken with another consultant (mine’s on holiday) the believe that it would be best to do another excision first to then test this and then, if need be, perform a mastectomy.  The voice of reason was there – she asked if I could cope if they did perform a mastectomy and the testing of the removed tissue proved that they had got the tumour in the first operation.  How would I feel having unnecessarily authorised the removal of my breast?  She’s right – that would fill me with horror.

She apologised once more that the literature given to me about a Phyllodes Tumour has only one line about a malignant version and tells me that she’s been speaking with the publications and reference departments asking them to see if it would be possible to ensure that there is a publication about a malignant phyllodes tumour however she felt that they wouldn’t do this as it is so rare and resources were tight and needed to be spent on more prevalant cancers.

Greta also noticed that I had been booked in for the 2nd operation on 19th November but remembered that I had discussed my music request for the operating theatre as Handel’s Fireworks on the basis that it was Guy Fawkes ie 5th November.  I asked that if there was a reason that the operation should be later then that was OK but I would prefer it sooner and over with but it MUST be with the same consultant – I totally trust him to do the right thing, for me.  Could it be an administration error?

Oh, could I wait for yet another 14 days?

I have been experiencing a sharp stabbing pain in my right breast. It feels a little like a hot poker being stabbed into my breast and pulsing with pain. The pain only lasts for a few minutes however takes my breath away and all I can do is try to breathe through it whilst the tears run down my cheek and I wince with pain. I don’t know what’s causing it ie if the pain relates to the tumour or the reconstruction. I did have shooting pains before surgery but not to this intensity. Today I decided that I really needed to check in with my Macmillan nurse and ask if this is normal. I also wanted to ask about a mastectomy. Are we assuming that the best course of action is to simply do the operation again and then do a mastectomy, if need be – ie to do our utmost to preserve my boob? But if this method might give the tumour a chance to grow further and mean that the outcome may be worse, would it make more sense for me to elect to have a mastectomy at this piont and eliminate earlier the chance of it spreading?

Unfortunately I got the answerphone and left a message for Greta outlining the above. I felt dreadful just leaving a message – what would happen if she didn’t call back as promised within 24 hours? What then? Who can I ask?